Thursday, March 5, 2009

Mother, Father, I don't want to be a Doctor

Hello all, I've been caught up with school this past week. What with the school year coming to a close in 12 weeks I have to decide what courses I'll be taking next year.

Man it's a tough decision. I don't want to pursue science next year only, but I'm willing to take it up the year after. I want to spend my free elective next year for journalism. I like journalism a lot. But since physiology (study of the human body) would better 'aid' me in being a Doctor I should do that. Plus, all of my friends are taking it so we have some 'support system'. Can you say peer pressure? Honestly, I've never asked my friend's for help as much as I thought this year when I decided to take Chemistry -Honors heheh-, so I doubt I'll need them next year if I took Physiology.

Now that I think about, what ever made me want to devote 11 years of my life to Medicine? I vaguely remember my parents, no not vaguely, clearly, remember them always saying, "You're going to grow up and be a doctor :D" I call that the Immigrant dream. But it isn't bad, being a doctor, or having parents who want you to be one, it's just not for me. Just because you get good pay doesn't mean I'm going to enjoy spending my life working 9-5 for the next 40 years until retirement. I shudder just thinking about it.

And since I've started rethinking my whole career goal, what will I major in college? Seriously, I've planned out every single thing in my life and as a friend had to yell at me, life can't be planned (Could've found that in some fortune cookie). Only God knows when I'm going to get married, and when I'll have children -I planned what age- But as to what I'll major in University, it had previously been a Major in PreMed and a Minor in Child Psychology, I'll probably go with Psychology and a minor in Journalism.

I don't want to be constrained to the same boring routine, and believe or not, touching sicks kids (I aspired to be a Pediatrician) isn't all that fantastic. Maybe it's because I lack the 'Messiah Complex' so many Doctors have. To go out and save the world one vaccine at time. I think that the pen is mightier than the sword (but not the needle) and would rather use my words and experiences to fight all the injustice in the world. I don't have experience at the moment, but don't worry I will!

So in the meantime, I have until next Wednesday to figure out what to pick, Physiology or Journalism (or another science?). I have to break it to my parents sometime but they're probably not going to care until it's time to pick out colleges. I don't think they even know what classes I have now .-.;

Oh and as a side note, my Chem teacher keeps trying to goad us all into AP(Advanced Placement) Environmental Science even though I'll be having 2 APs next year. Sorry, I don't care about the environment that much to give up an elective for it.

Ta-ta ladies


Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

Awwww sweety you're confused and torn between two eh, been there done that. You see; as much as we wish to please our parents there are certain things we should do for ourselves. My mother really wanted me to take Bio-Medical Engineering for a diploma and my dad wanted me to be in Areospace Engineering (ME DEALING WITH PLANES?HELL NO!) So basically they wanted me to be in the science-engineering stream. I mean please, I'm not a math and science person; I wish to major in Languages or rather I wish to be involved in something that's more ME.
So I just explained to them that I'll be taking up Child-Psychology and Early Childhood and told them that this decision has to be MINE because as much as I wish to live for them, I don't want to turn back 10 years down the road and see myself meddling with blueprints of planes and regret.

GO for what you think you should but at the same time don't disappoint your parents. sit down and talk to them and try to make them understand :)
HUGSSSSSS for my rocking sistaaaaa <333


ModestJustice said...

A'qilah: Thank you so much! I'm beginning to feel more resolute in my decision but I tend to sway very easily. Bio-medical engineering?! Aerospace?! You must be one smart cookie :D I'm too much of a wimp to challenge myself with math besides the bare minimum to apply for Universities. And I understand the regret part. I wonder about my decisions and how I'll feel a decade from now and I know that spending it in medicine is going to be a huge waste of time for me. I want my 20s to be my glory days haha.
What kind of career do you plan on having? And my parent's will definitely know about what I want to do...
they have to sign the course sheet showing that they 'acknowledge' my decisions for classes.
Mucho gracias <3

malekat_el7oriya said...

omygod yess! i agree with you 100%, my parents are like that too, and my dad is always like "inshallah we'll live to the day that we see you graduating out of college as a doctor :!!" and I'm like GRRRRR i would hate hate hate to be a doctor there is NO way i would want to do that. I would much much rather major in Islamic Studies and such, and minor in literature or journalism or something.

ModestJustice said...

Yay! We're all in the same boat! Now I don't feel like an outcast <3

Insha'allah you do whatever you want Malekat and I'm sure your parents will accept it once they see that you are happy with it :D

You're an 8th grader right?
Atleast that's what grade I was in when we did U.S History (boring days of my life)

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

i wanna study journalism 2
bt unlike you guys
i cant keep my mouth shut like normal people and coz my mum is a doctor she uses that soo much
you know naz all this didnt just get here by itself
im like
err yeah i know
etc but i do have a genuine intrest in medicine
for other reasons nt money my mum says i only speak like a saint coz i never lived without money
(note: she never did either)
bt id just love to voluntairluy be able to help get rid of someones pain to save someones child etc
but coz i gt an intrest in politics
can u blame me muslim in the west *rollseyes*
i do study journalism in the sidelines

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

Welcomed sweety :)
HELL NO. I suck at math wallah. lol.
my parents are just over-ambitious. my dad loves planes so expects my brother to be a pilot and me an aerospace engineer. lol. my mum thinks the word bio-engineering is cool hence, the choice. LOL I know, we all want our 20s to be our glory days aint it ;)
Initially I wasn't very happy with my given course because even i asked for journalism hahahahaha ;)
but then I realised how much I was against the media. lol and how much i was in love with kids and working with them would be like a dream come true. Insya'Allah after diploma, i'll go for a degree and work either as a pre-school teacher or a child consultant.
it's okay habibty, they'll chill after some time. take my dad for example; he's excited for me now and is starting to think about the Uni he'll send me to. LOL!
Bas Insya'Allah Khair<3

Allah Ma3k :D

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

oh... and like naz maybe i'll take medis studies/journalism as a minor in Uni ;)


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Starfish said...

Assalamu Alaykum.
This is my 2nd semester as a university freshman. All my life... I had planned to be a doctor. I love anatomy and physiology... but I hate all this chemistry and boring biology.
Problem is, my dad is a doctor. All our friends (we are Arabic) are all doctors. All our friend's kids are all doctors. All the Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, Syrians, Egyptians. All of us are studying to be doctors.
And I hate it.
I'm not good at it.
And now I'm starting to doubt myself.
I feel as though I shouldn't be doubting myself. It feels as though I am letting down all of our Muslim community by deciding I don't want to be a doctor.
I mean, a doctor gets a ton of thawab, right? It is such a righteous thing to do... to help people. And when Muslims are doctors and hold high positions in America... then maybe we will have a say in how everything is done.
But I can't take it.
I hate everything about this.
I don't know what I want to do.
I feel like there is no other option for me.
I am failing my chemistry class, so I made a withdrawal from it. I am retaking it in the summer in hopes of being able to get a good grade in it.
I don't understand.
I used to be such a good studentin high school. I had a 3.8. I took AP Environmental Science, AP English, AP Literature, AP Biology... but now, I just hate it all.

I want to major in something that will let me be satisfied for my whole life, as well as something to satisfy to my parents, as well as something to satisfy the Muslim community and help us on our path as being accepted.
But I don't know.
I don't know what to.
I'm just glad I'm not the only one...
At least you found this out early.

BARAN said...

Salams sis.its true,u hav to follow ur interests...because the career dat u wil choose it wil b for a long course.I m a medical student.1 more year to graduate.I choose this field bcoz i'm interested in it,wanting to help wil b hard for u ,if u dont hav the interest.tell ur parents ur love of journalism,they might understand it.Anyway,all the best with ur study n all.May Allah bless u always.

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